“Attitudes strung together become beliefs, and related beliefs strung together become perceptions. Over time, this redundancy creates a view of the world and of yourself that’s largely subconscious.”
—Dr. Joe Dispenza
How much do you think you affect and create your physical reality and your body? I am currently reading The Nature of Personal Reality by Jane Roberts which was written in 1972. Roberts allegedly channeled the information (as “Seth”) and one of the key messages in the book is:
“Experience is the product of the mind, the spirit, conscious thoughts and feelings, and unconscious thoughts and feelings. These together form the reality that you know. You see and feel what you expect to see and feel. The world as you know it is a picture of your expectations.”
So why would anyone have expectations of illness, financial troubles, heartbreak, or career upset? We don’t set conscious intentions for these things, but I am coming closer to understanding what that concept means. I am fascinated by the different realities of each individual and on a daily basis I study how we get the results we get in our outer worlds. I am also enthralled with the human capacity and power we’ve yet to access or believe in. I’ve spent many hours listening to near death experience stories and the common thread in all of them is that we are so, so, so much more than we imagine.
I think my intrigue—aside of a philosophical disposition—is because I have had moments of great dominion and times of incredible weakness. I have created some amazing circumstances and events that I desired fervently, yet I have also had dark times of seemingly endless pain. What was the difference? Are we pawns whereby our lives are a series of random events out of our control? Or are we the unwitting drivers who have the ability to stave off strife if we get conscious about what’s really steering the ship?
It is a very hard concept for us to conceive of and especially accept the notion that we actually create what shows up in our lives. I mean everything: the good, the bad, and the ugly. This idea is not a new way to lay blame—as in blaming ourselves and thereby remaining a victim—it is an exciting opportunity to actively create a new reality.
“You change even the most permanent-seeming conditions of your life constantly through the varying attitudes you have toward them. There is nothing in your exterior experience that did not originate within you.”
This viewpoint tells us that we attract events, people, and circumstances through our attitudes and biases, negative memories, grudges, our beliefs, and especially our recurring thoughts and statements, which are the building blocks of our beliefs.
We are not in the habit of observing ourselves. To get a feel for how to determine where you may be leading yourself astray, watch your friends and family. Listen to repetitive statements they make about life, relationships (men or women as a group), the state of the world, the government, their health, their jobs. Then match up the circumstances of their current affairs.
I have watched two friends in their pursuit to find a mate with deep interest. Both ultimately have the goal of a good marriage. Both have gone on innumerable (exhaustive, in my opinion) dates in their search. Friend “A” frequently uses words like “garbage” and “nonsense” when describing her dates. Her attitude and beliefs about relationships is revealing. She’s young and pretty, yet feels stymied in her search for one good man.
Another friend “B” broke up with a good but commitment-phobic man in January. After some initial grief, she set forth on a new quest with renewed determination. She went on dates where I’d rather have stuck a fork in my eye. She gave each man the benefit of the doubt and focused on their redeeming qualities. At one point while she was testing the waters with a nice doctor (who didn’t really fit the bill), enter a man who rocked her world. She was smiling. A lot. She was giddy. She was happy. He fit. Like a glove. The result? Last weekend that handsome man “liked it and put a ring on it.”
Observing ourselves is not so easy. I only recently caught myself in a habit I have had for many, many years. It was so unconscious that it seemed natural and normal. I realized that every time I pass a reflective window, door, or mirror, I take the opportunity to pick myself apart or hurl criticism at myself. (“Jesus, you thought you looked good in those shorts?!”) Does this serve me? Not bloody likely.
What is important to you?
What are your “rules”?
What are your phobias?
How much are these things impinging upon your freedom?
We can make ourselves completely miserable by the meaning we assign to things and the thoughts we dwell on.
I hadn’t worn a swimsuit in years due to red spots on my legs caused by a skin condition that has no known cause or cure. My belief was that they were unsightly. They’ve dissipated and are now faint, so I finally put on my swimsuit to go in the lake and my sister’s pool in the Okanagan. Liberation! You don’t tend to go into water much when wearing shorts and a T and I had a blast splish-splashing around for hours. It was so hot that at midnight when I had to go out to fill a flattening tire with air, I wore my suit with a light wrap. This was previously tantamount to “heresy.” I saw some young girls snickering about it, but I cared not. Emancipation had finally arrived!
“What beliefs and perceptions about you and your life have you been unconsciously agreeing to that you’d have to change in order to create this new state of being?”
— Dr. Joe Dispenza
This philosophy of “thoughts become things” is not just good mind fodder, it can be a game changer in what your reality becomes. But can you guess what the biggest challenge of this is? Based on the nature of humans, it is the amount of concentration and effort required to change. One must examine current behavior. It takes vigilant awareness and correction. We need to take time daily to visualize a new reality. By abandoning the worn pathways of negative thought, the trails begin to disappear and we can then rewire, or reseed the brain with new visions, ideas, thoughts, and expansive beliefs.
If you need inspiration for overcoming your own little world of “destruction,” watch A Beautiful Mind and The Theory of Everything. These two men embody the incredible human capacity to rise above that which seems to be insurmountable.
Question and challenge your beliefs. Are the things you believe to be the gospel truth actually true?
- One woman at size 8 believes herself to be Fatty McFatterson. Another walks like a goddess and feels light and beautiful, also a size 8.
- One woman has over $500,000 in the bank and fears destitution in old age, fretting on a daily basis. Another has been financially wiped out by tragedy, but has complete faith things will turn around and all will be well.
- One man thinks his jaunts about the office are good exercise and hasn’t noticed his growing moobs (man boobs). Another rides his bike 10k to work every day and still religiously weight trains.
- One woman sees a large spider in a pool and swims away like an Olympian in utter panic (me). Another gently cups her hands around the drowning arachnid in a rescue and resuscitation effort (my sister).
- One woman is gifted a small, simple diamond ring from her boyfriend and beams as she tells her friends she feels like she received the Hope diamond. Another woman gets a flawless 1 carat engagement ring and secretly seethes because she believes it doesn’t match her geologist boyfriend’s salary.
Who’s right? Or more importantly, which beliefs are bringing health and happiness and which are not?
“Remember, even false beliefs will seem to be justified in terms of physical data, since your experience in the outside world is the materialization of those beliefs. Many false beliefs therefore are indiscriminately accepted because you have not examined them. You have given the inner self a faulty picture of reality.”
When we let go of the old and familiar, there is a void that is almost deafening. I know, because I’m in it. The uncertainty of the abyss in a world that demands results is uncomfortable. I’ve yet to create the new but I know the infinite power of the human spirit and dig deep to hold faith in accessing mine.
I think the biggest lie we have been fed is that we are nothing more than physical beings flailing through a shit-happens-and-then-we-die reality separate from divinity. Here’s to each of us remembering our God-given greatness.
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